The women, in their majority, they are sensitive people, even those who are strong and independent. Sometimes, they simply experience a feeling of guilt and unnecessary all that you say, do or feel. Usually, this is given by the pressure of the society that is full of prototypes wrong: “you need children to be complete”, “your hobbies are quite stupid”, “you dress like a man,” and thousands of similar things to these. However, never should you apologize for this.
In Great.guru we have prepared a list of 15 things no woman should feel guilty. It’s time to change your attitude towards yourself and be better each and every day!
1. By saying “no”
Women often feel guilty for saying “no”. We know that it is easier to say “yes”, no matter what the result. This may surprise you a little, but it is something real: you should not apologize for this. Yes, I know that you feel bad for refusing to help a friend or tell a guy that you don’t want to go out with him.
But always think of yourself first; there is probably a reason why you need to say “no”. No matter what your reasons are, if you simply don’t want to say “yes” to something, no one has the right to force you to do otherwise.
2. Because prefer hobbies “feminine” or “manly”
“Sky, it’s time to find a hobby more suitable for you, you are a lady!” How often have you heard an argument similar to this? Who the hell said you can’t be a mechanic for being a woman?
Remember that this is your life, and you decide what you want for it. There is no reason why you can’t feel happy for the bike instead of knit; or knit in place of bicycles. Hey, after all, we live in the TWENTY-first century!
3. By not wearing makeup
Raise your hand if you’re one of those girls that you ever feel pressured to wear makeup simply because, well, you’re a woman. Even if you don’t like, sometimes you feel that pressure from society. I’ll tell you one very important thing. If you don’t like the makeup, don’t use it and already. If you prefer a light touch of compact powder in place of a base layer, is a choice that is totally understandable.
After all, if you have a beautiful skin that does not need any kind of outline, painted lines, and hundreds of ways to draw a new face that is not really yours, you have all the reasons to be proud of it. And if, on the contrary, love the makeup, it is also completely valid and beautiful.
4. By the foods that you prefer to consume
Life becomes quite difficult when, in addition to all the social pressures, you have to defend even your food choices, especially between friends or family. “Why don’t you drink? Hey, just a cup!” or “What do you mean that you don’t eat meat?!”. Even something so small as eating a salad when everyone else choose a burger (or vice versa) you can end with a source of pressure or a topic to discuss among people that will accompany you and should not be so.
No one should feel guilty for their food choices. If you don’t like fish, it is simply your problem. Looking for something more and please do not think in giving explanations to no one for this.
5. For fun
When was the last time you felt the urge to dance, sing, or jump into the air, but you went for the head something like “What would you think the people of this?”.
Well, then, this belongs to you, who cares? You can do what you want unless you hurt someone. People just smile or raise an eyebrow, probably will pass unnoticed… or not you will realize what you’re doing, in any way, who cares? It is very likely that you will never see these people. Why should you reject these seconds of 100% joy for you?
6. For being a little selfish
Selfishness is not always a negative, especially if it is things minimal. It is good that you want to a little bit of time for you, not always for your work, friends, family, or other things. It is good that you want to relax alone (or with the company of your choice) after a long day and postpone everything for later.
You should not apologize if you want me to you the last piece of cake or that object of that store, and you don’t even have to explain to anyone why you need it. You just do it. It is what makes you happy and that is reason enough.
7. For having any emotion
Human beings have emotions; we all know it. Sometimes you need to cry a little or laugh… just because. You can simply feel the desire to be alone and not talk to anyone; or at some unexpected moment, the need to hug your best friend.
You can be angry, happy, surprised, disappointed, sad, and even indifferent to any situation, and you should not apologize just because you haven’t responded to someone with a smile.
8. By need a little help and ask for it
Almost all women at least once in your life, you are in a situation in which they need help, but for some reason did not feel very well to ask for the help. Because whatever it is, lift a suitcase too heavy to place it on a shelf, or assist in any duty of the house, many times we tend to feel guilty when we cannot handle something on our own.
You have to understand that asking for help is absolutely normal and no one have to judge you by this. In addition, the majority of people will surely be delighted to help you because we all like to feel useful, you simply have to ask for the favor. And rather than apologize, you can give a “thanks” from the heart, sure it will appreciate much more.
9. By thinking differently
Fortunately, we live in a world where no one should forbid us to have and express a different opinion. Other people can like it or not, but that is not your issue. If your friend asks if you like the new book by renowned author, you can calmly say “no” without feeling any sense of guilt. You just don’t like the style, there is nothing for which to apologize. At no time told them to throw out the book, right?
The only case in which you need to apologize for expressing your thoughts is when did being rude and impolite. Always remember that in the same way we should respect the way of thinking of other people. Not to share a thought is valid, to claim to change it is not.
10. For the clothes that you want to use
There will always be someone who does not like your style or your way of dressing. It is a matter of taste and should not influence your level of comfort.
No matter if you like romantic dresses of princess, a sporty style or the old jeans from your dad. Unless you go out to walk in a bikini or break a dress code at work, you can use whatever you want.
11. Because you feel proud of your achievements
Even if this is your first pancake, if you feel it as a personal achievement, a small step on the way to be a better person. You can and should be proud of your success, and I mean to the success of any scope, size or circumstance.
Don’t let those who are trying to minimize your achievements make you feel that moment of pride is wrong. What did you do. You deserve it. – Enjoy!
12. By accepting and loving your body exactly how you are
Have you ever felt something similar, right? You are “too thin”, or you are “too fat”, “muscular”, “too low” or even “if you are tall, you can not use high heels”. Really? Do you remember that all human beings are different?
Don’t forget: you are the one who decides if you are beautiful or not.
13. Not to know everything
Well, frankly, you should not apologize. The willingness to learn is what matters. If you don’t know how airplanes fly or how to cook that cake of citrus, you can always ask Google. After all, we are constantly learning something, even the most intelligent of us do.
14. By your way of living life
What do you mean by happiness? Do you have children? How to get a great career? Do you travel? People always think that what they do is the best and will push towards things that they feel correct from your point of view. However, if you’re not ready for marriage now, it’s your choice. If you love your job, don’t listen to anyone that tell you that you need to exchange it for another.
You probably say so because you want to and you want what is better: a higher salary or a family life more stable and happy. However, they are decisions for your life. The best thing is that you be intuitive and listen to your heart.
15. By the way you live your sexuality
Again, your body only belongs to you. You can decide to “wait until marriage” or live a few (or several) experiences before this. In both cases, there will always be someone to criticize your choice.
However, the issue is that it is your decision. You don’t have to go around giving explanations to no one for it.
Have you ever felt guilty for at least one of the things that we name in this list? Have you managed to get rid of this feeling of guilt unnecessary? Please share your stories and opinions with us in the comments! Don’t forget to share it with all your friends this article.
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